Anonymous asked:

Anon from before, the word involve is very different from coddling. How are men going to learn to stop sexually abusing women if all we are doing is yelling at them? People don't learn from negativity, hating them is only hurting yourself, because you are not seeing the full potential of others, and situations. Men will only become more defensive if keep attacking them (as proven by some questions you've been asked, etc).

shamelesslyunladylike answered:

Dude, MEN STARTED ALL THIS SHIT.

This is NOT an accident.

They don’t oppress us because they’re ignorant and don’t know better. They do it because they benefit from it. They feign ignorance and promise they’ll change to waste your time, and then they keep doing what they always do.

Never once in history an oppressed class achieved anything by being nice and understanding to their oppressor. And women in general lack class conscience. Men are NOT on your side. They mostly want you to stop talking about your experience because it makes them uncomfortable.

Stop being nice to people who don’t even see you as fully human. Stop being a doormat. Stop codding your oppressor.

[metal-thimble]

If appealing to men’s sympathies were effective, most of our problems would have been solved a long time ago.

[bbrightstar]

"Power is not a mistake in which the powerful can be educated, it’s not a misunderstanding, and it’s not a disagreement. Justice is not won by moral argument, or exertion, or individual transformation, and it’s not won by spiritual epiphany - It’s won by taking power away from the powerful and dismantling the institutions." - Lierre Keith

[nonnegative]

i want to know how the idea that people don’t learn from negativity became widely recognized. because lol i can recite criticism i got 20 years ago but don’t remember compliments i got yesterday.